Sunday, July 12, 2009
When the going gets rough...
...the tough slips into ignore mode.
Bcause that's the most painless way to deal with unpleasantries in life. At least for me it is. Face it, it takes two to argue. So you rant, I keep quiet. You yell, I keep quiet. You stomp off, I'm not there anymore. Yes, I'm still sitting there but I'm not.
Sarcastic as I am, I seldom snap back in a real argument. I automatically slip into ignore mode. I'm not a fighter. I don't like to fight. Not because I can't. To me, it's a bloody waste of time and energy. The times I DO snap back, I usually end up getting frustrated at myself because I have very high regard for emotional self-control. That's why angry people scare me. Emo people scare me. I can't deal with crying people. I don't like people to touch me. I had a friend who found it funny to sneak up behind me and smack my butt while I was talking to another friend. Guess what, I elbowed her. Oh rather, I nearly did, but luckily I managed to stop mere centimetres from her face when I saw who it was. That's the kind of reflex action I have.
Was chatting with the cousin
on Facebook just now and our conversation went something like this:
Me: I'm still not really sure how to deal with uncalled-for anger.
Her: Hahaha me too.
Me: So do you do the "ok calm down, let's talk things through" shit?
Her: I just don't say anything. Let's talk things through sounds too patronizing.
Me: Or do you just say "DUDE GET YOUR SHIT TOGETHER NOW!!!!"
Me: Frankly, I don't think anybody wants to calm down when they're angry. They just want to rant and yell at you until they're satisfied. Then apologize after that.
Her: LOL that's just about right.
Labels: this is me
Posted by Hedonistics Anonymous :: 8:29 am ::